Releasing Grief
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I never knew how to deal with grief. I’m not exactly sure that’s even something we can be taught or learn over our lifetime. Honestly my way has been avoidance. I would skip funeral services and any conversation about death. I have been this way since I was a kid, probably because death was never explained to me. It brings thoughts and emotions to the surface of my being. Some of which I was not capable of or ready to handle. Anger, confusion, sadness and fear have its way of infiltrating my mind and body.
During times of pain my heart more closely connects with my brain and my thoughts take off in an uncontrollable direction. My empathetic side doesn’t help me process any better. Sometimes Its as if I am literally in the persons shoes feeling their feels. Other times it triggers personal experiences that I have tucked away in the back of my mind. Its a reminder that we are all connected in this life. We love, live, and grieve on the same frequency. We do not need to personally know or have met a person for them to have an affect on us and make us feel connected to them.
During times of tragedy take the time to just feel. We owe this to our mental health and spirit. So process grief how you need to for YOU.
Here are a few ways to cope:
Log Out
Social media and the internet can trigger us. Emotional and mental triggers can send us into dark spaces which can become hard to rise from. Talk to a friend. Reach out to someone you love and trust. Often the cure to easing our pain and frustrations is speaking to another about whatever is plaguing us.
Find Joy
Do something that will enable peace and solace to your mind and spirit. Think about listening to music, writing, working out, cooking, or enjoying nature. All these movements have healing effects.
Trust The Process
Understand that grieving has no time frame. Allow yourself to feel for as long as you need to. Allow that same space to those around you. You’ll experience phases of grief, so set boundaries for yourself to cope. Ask for help when you need it
Have Faith
Pray for inner peace and healing. Pray that others seek and obtain the same.
“ Blessed are the poor in spirit: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted. Blessed are the meek: for they shall inherit the earth”
-Matthew 5:3-5