Shoot Your Shot

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A cute guy catches my eye and what do I do turn away and pretend I didn’t see him. Then I patiently wait for him to notice me and shoot his shot. Ha! Seems like that’s been the typical scenario for me.

I’ve always maintained the typical tradition of waiting for the man to ask me out. Aside from the fear of rejection and getting curved it is extremely intimidating to ask my crush on a date. Especially if there wasn’t a clear sign that he was crushing on me.  I have always viewed it as chasing a man down, but I’ve learned there is a healthy balance to getting the guy you want without looking thirsty.  

As with everything in my life I have been working to elevate my mindset, but seemly ignored the need to elevate my views on dating. Opening my mind to be the one who chooses instead of the one who waits to get chosen. This is the energy I want to cultivate as whole, knowing what I want and being intentional about getting it. Understanding how much control we have over our life and its outcomes is priceless.

After a little bit of back and forth I slid in his DM and sent my number with a note that said “Call Me”. Short and sweet right?!. I figured that would build up some curiosity in his mind. Plus I would much rather get curved directly than on social media. This was the most nerve-racking part waiting for him to call. During the wait I decided to plan what I was going to say and where I was going to suggest we meet for a date. This is the moment I truly understood the pressure that men experience when it comes to dating. All kinds of emotions and possibilities running through my mind.

Long story short, I had an amazing night with my crush drinking wine and talking about life. The lesson I learned was that fear of anything will keep you stagnant and never moving forward. Going after the things we want or the person we want is just as simple as doing it. The worst thing that could happen is the answer is no.