Past Experience and Future Living
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It recently occurred to me just how much my past experiences shape my life and affect how I live in the present. Especially the not so pleasant times that linger in the back of my mind. I will admit I have held onto certain memories and continue to use them as a guide through my current life.
Our subconscious mind can carry old thinking patterns in which we end up recycling over the years. We begin to operate with the recorded emotion and memory that we are familiar with from the past. In return, this is a disservice to our quality of present life, our growth and the people we connect with. Ultimately, new people who enter our life end up paying the price. They are met with our past feelings and experiences in which we have yet to heal from. This is especially true in our intimate relationships. It certainly has been for me.
One major issue for me personally was I set myself up to miss out on joyful moments. Many of my new experiences were being met with preconceived notions. In conjunction with my past thoughts and the fear of the unknown it held me back from a potentially brand new experience. A potential happy experience that could rewrite the past message I stored in my mind.
The question I always seem to ask myself is ……How do I correct this?
I have always argued that time and maturity alter this mindset. Others have challenged that Emotionally Focused Therapy is the solution. Then there are those who rely on others to step in and show them something different. I guess it depends on our path and our willingness to change how we view things. There goes that accountability piece.
The importance for me was recognizing old thought patterns and triggers. Being extremely self-aware allowed me to process old emotions from a new perspective. Therapy has provided the release and guidance necessary for this to take place in my life. It has opened my life to progression verses hinderance in many areas.
It is human nature to base things on historical events in our life and those witnessed in the lives of the people around us. I choose to actively shift my perception and it works for me. I am creating new narratives.
