The Subtle Art of Dating
It’s spring 2019, I am a single, 37-year-old, with no kids, walking in my purpose and constantly mulling over my future. At this stage one thing that seemingly always becomes a topic for me is “dating & Relationships”.
Other than experiencing the typical creep in my day to day, social media is the main source for connecting me with a few good men (including my current crush). Men who are intelligent, hold great jobs, are respectful and interested in getting to know me.
On the flip side of that, I am also introduced to men who lack basic communication skills and seem to not know what they truly want in a woman. I became bored with the typical conversations that started with “So what do you do for fun?” Which is always a question I could never fully answer and maybe because in the back of my mind I’m screaming FUNNNNNNNNN?!
I found myself getting frustrated with the way men approached me. Was it me? Was my vibe attracting that? Or was it a bigger issue I had yet uncovered?
It occurred to me that most of the time when I was asked out on a date it was to “Get Drinks”. I began wondering if that was just a lazy way to make a move on a woman or perhaps I truly did look like an alcoholic. I don’t know which bothers me more this or “When can I see you?”
That provoked me to think about versatility in the first date ideas men had in mind when asking a woman out………… Especially a girl like me.
In some instances, I am very traditional and every so often extremely spontaneous. Through growth I have come to love meaningful interactions with the opposite sex. Surface level conversations and exchanges do not intrigue me at all.
In my experiences I felt that most men did not take into consideration that all woman are not the same, hence I should not be approached in the same manner that worked in approaching another woman. I refused to believe that every woman was being asked to “Get Drinks” or maybe they are and my expectation are just too high.
I thought of some really cool first date Ideas that If I were asked I might be more open to accepting the offer and wanting to take the chance to get to know a him.
Here is my list of date ideas that should be considered upon asking as a first date……….
Coffee shop
Bookstore
Museum/Aquarium
Ice cream
Fitness session
Breakfast/Brunch
Wine Tasting
Cooking Class
Painting/Arts
Broadway show
Spa Day
Race Go carts
Brewery Tour
Concert/Live Music
Volunteer work
City Day Tour
Boat Ride
Shooting Range
Shopping
Food Tour
Festival/Flea Market
Beach Day
Amusement Park
Mini Golf
Educational Workshop
House Hunting