The Subtle Art of Dating

It’s spring 2019, I am a single, 37-year-old, with no kids, walking in my purpose and constantly mulling over my future. At this stage one thing that seemingly always becomes a topic for me is “dating & Relationships”.

Other than experiencing the typical creep in my day to day, social media is the main source for connecting me with a few good men (including my current crush). Men who are intelligent, hold great jobs, are respectful and interested in getting to know me.

On the flip side of that, I am also introduced to men who lack basic communication skills and seem to not know what they truly want in a woman. I became bored with the typical conversations that started with “So what do you do for fun?”  Which is always a question I could never fully answer and maybe because in the back of my mind I’m screaming FUNNNNNNNNN?!

I found myself getting frustrated with the way men approached me. Was it me? Was my vibe attracting that? Or was it a bigger issue I had yet uncovered?

It occurred to me that most of the time when I was asked out on a date it was to “Get Drinks”.  I began wondering if that was just a lazy way to make a move on a woman or perhaps I truly did look like an alcoholic. I don’t know which bothers me more this or “When can I see you?”

That provoked me to think about versatility in the first date ideas men had in mind when asking a woman out………… Especially a girl like me.

In some instances, I am very traditional and every so often extremely spontaneous. Through growth I have come to love meaningful interactions with the opposite sex. Surface level conversations and exchanges do not intrigue me at all.

In my experiences I felt that most men did not take into consideration that all woman are not the same, hence I should not be approached in the same manner that worked in approaching another woman. I refused to believe that every woman was being asked to “Get Drinks” or maybe they are and my expectation are just too high.

I thought of some really cool first date Ideas that If I were asked I might be more open to accepting the offer and wanting to take the chance to get to know a him.

Here is my list of date ideas that should be considered upon asking as a first date……….

Coffee shop

Bookstore

Museum/Aquarium

Ice cream

Fitness session

Breakfast/Brunch

Wine Tasting

Cooking Class

Painting/Arts

Broadway show

Spa Day

Race Go carts

Brewery Tour

Concert/Live Music

Volunteer work

City Day Tour

Boat Ride

Shooting Range

Shopping

Food Tour

Festival/Flea Market

Beach Day

Amusement Park

Mini Golf

Educational Workshop

House Hunting

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