The Reset is Real: My Birthday, My Rules
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This year I woke up on my birthday and felt like something clicked. Not a “Yay, it’s my bday” vibe, but a deep soul reset energy. I just turned 44….. a whole master number year! And something about this one hit different.
It wasn’t about a spa day or mini shopping spree (though I did enjoy both). It was about alignment. Clarity. Peace. Purpose. I realized I didn’t just turn a year older, I walked into a whole new season. And I started thinking… why isn’t my birthday my real new year?
Our special day is our solar return. That’s when the Sun returns to the exact position it was in when you were born. Think of it like your personal energetic reset button. And once I understood that, Whew….Everything shifted. Like I knew this, but never deeply sat with this information.
I decided to stop looking at January 1st like my clean slate. Because honestly that date ain’t ever really hit for me. Of course I’d be hyped for like a week and then slide right into goal setting. But on my birthday I get quiet. Reflective. Present. I naturally start reviewing my life, thinking about what I want, what I’ve learned, what I’m ready to release. That’s not a coincidence that’s spiritual divine timing.
Turning 44 has me seeing my birthday with brand new eyes. For the first time, I feel like I’m honoring the meaning of this annual milestone. I’ve started thinking of my birthday as a sacred ceremony, not just a celebration. It’s my spiritual new year. This is when my true calendar resets. My energy, my intentions, my vision, it all gets recalibrated. And this year I’m not winging it. I’m walking into it on purpose.
I was so excited, I created a ritual. I named this chapter "Soft Surrender." I reflected. I cried. I released. I set new intentions rooted in my soul, not culture. I looked at my astrology, my human design, my life path. I asked Spirit to show me where I need to be and who I need to become to live a very good year.
I’m sharing this because maybe you’ve never thought of your birthday like this before. Maybe you’ve been dragging yourself into the January (or spring solstice) hype every year and wondering why it never fully sticks. Or maybe you’ve just been craving a new way to mark growth and change in your life.
Let me offer you this idea: What if you treat your birthday as your new year? What if you gave yourself permission to start over not with pressure, but with presence each year on this day. What if you created your own annual tradition of reflection, intention-setting, and soul care on your terms. Celebrating your life’s accomplishments and using that to fuel you to your next set of aspirations.
That’s what I’m doing from now on. I’m calling it part of my My Very Good Year philosophy and honestly, it makes so much more sense.
So Here’s What I’m Doing Differently
I’m journaling from birthday to birthday, not January to December
I’m choosing a theme for my year, not a list of goals
I’m checking in with my solar return chart to see what themes are coming up astrologically and spiritually
I’m treating my birthday like my personal New Year’s Eve complete with rituals, quiet time, big celebrations and a vibe check for the next 12 months
And guess what? I think you should do this too. If this resonates with you, consider this your permission slip to make your birthday a sacred ritual. Start a new tradition. Give yourself a spiritual reset. Don’t wait for the world’s calendar to tell you when to evolve. Use your own. Because when you honor your solar return, you activate your power.
And that, my love makes a very good year. ✨