More People, More Problems: A Lesson on Alignment

Do you wanna know what hit me deep? My mentor saying, “People say it’s more money, more problems, but it’s really more people, more problems. Because if we had all the money and peace in the world, we’d be fine. It’s being around the wrong people that causes chaos.”

It’s wild how easily our energy can get tangled up in someone else’s shit if we’re not careful. That’s why this season, as the collective talks about “The Great Lock-In,” I’m reminded that alignment isn’t just about the internal discipline I talked about in my last blog it’s also about external discernment.

When I think about the moments in my life where I’ve lost focus or felt disconnected from myself, it was never because I didn’t have the right plan, routine, or goals. It was because of the people and environments I was connected to. The wrong partner drained my peace. The wrong social circle dulled my light. The wrong job or friendships quietly pulled me off my path.

In hindsight, I’ve realized something about myself: when I’m in partnership, my peace and lifestyle tend to get disrupted. But when I’m single, I thrive. That’s not shade; it’s self-awareness. It’s a lesson I’ve learned on my spiritual journey (and a conversation for another day, lol). It taught me that energy exchange matters deeply. Connections close out for a reason. People fade because their season in your life is complete. Not every relationship, friendship, or connection is meant to grow with you and that’s okay. I’ve made peace with that and I’m happier for it.

Truthfully I’ve been intentional for years now, I move like this 365 days a year. But as time moves forward, it keeps calling for a deeper audit, not just of my habits but of my entire lifestyle.

Now more than ever, pay attention to who excites your energy versus who drains it. Who feels light and grounded around you, and who constantly feels heavy and distracted. Be mindful that we’re in a tender transformative season a time to protect your peace, your focus, and your next chapter.

And let me be clear this isn’t about cutting everyone off or isolating yourself. We need people. The right ones. The ones who pour into you, inspire you, challenge you, and remind you of your power when you forget. Community is sacred when it’s aligned. This is just about being intentional about who sits at your table.

So I’m challenging you (and myself) to be selective. Especially if you’re dating (or like me, attempting to). But also take a closer look at your friendships, your family dynamics, and your daily conversations. As you move through this season, remember: the more intentional you are with your energy, the smoother your path will unfold.