Lessons I’ve Learned from Men

One thing about men is they move differently. I don’t believe in idolizing everything they do, I can admit—there are some gems to be learned from the way they approach life, money, and relationships.

I’ve always operated in a more logical, structured way, which felt normal to me. I wasn’t overly emotional or caught up in overanalyzing things. But at the same time, I was hesitant to ask for what I really wanted, over-explaining my thoughts, and holding on to things longer than I should. Over the years, watching and learning from men has taught me to move with more confidence, clarity, and ease.

Here are a few powerful lessons I’ve picked up from men that have completely changed how I navigate life.

1. Men Ask for What They Want—Unapologetically

One of the main things I’ve noticed, is that men don’t hesitate to ask for what they want. Whether it’s negotiating for more money or approaching someone they’re interested in, they do it without overthinking, over-explaining, or feeling fearful.

Meanwhile, how many times have I hesitated to ask for something out of fear of being “too much” or “too demanding”? Let’s take it even further—sometimes, I didn’t even feel deserving of what I was asking for. I used to shrink myself, soften my requests, or not ask at all. But men straight-up say what they need and expect to get it.

I remember negotiating a higher rate for a project and catching myself wording my request too carefully—almost apologetically. Then I thought back to a conversation I had with my ex —someone who never asked for more money, he demanded it. When I asked him, “How do you always get what you want?” his response was simple: "Because I say it like I already deserve it. And if they say no? I move on."

That stuck with me. From that moment on, I made a decision: I will never downplay what I want again. Whether in business, relationships, or everyday life, I will ask with confidence and expect to receive it. Because the reality is—closed mouths don’t get fed.

📌 Lesson: Ask boldly. Negotiate fearlessly. Speak up for yourself like you already deserve what you’re asking for. Because you do.

2. Men Don’t Over-Explain—They Show Change Through Action

I used to think that love meant long conversations and deep explanations. If something was wrong, I wanted to talk about it, analyze it, and discuss it until I felt better. But most men don’t do all that talking—they just adjust.

Now, don’t get me wrong. There are men who communicate, men who apologize, men who take accountability. But what I’ve noticed is that the way they show love, change, or commitment is often through action, not words.

A man can say “I’m sorry” a hundred times, but what really matters is: Did he change?
A man can tell you “I love you” every day, but what really counts is: Does he show up for you?

I’ve applied this lesson to my own life—not just in dating, but in how I move overall. Instead of over-explaining my intentions, I just execute. Instead of talking about what I’m going to do, I just do it.

📌 Lesson: Less talking, more doing. Words can be empty—actions hold A LOT of weight.

3. Men Detach & Move On from What Doesn’t Serve Them

One thing men do that I’ve had to teach myself is they don’t dwell on things that don’t work for them. Women, on the other hand, tend to hold on. We’ll sit with emotions longer, replay conversations in our heads, reread old text messages, and sometimes even try to “fix” things that aren’t meant for us. But I’ve learned that detachment is a form of self-care.

I used to overstay my welcome in situations—hoping things would shift, trying to make sense of why something wasn’t working, feeling like I needed to understand what could be done better before I could let go. But the truth is it’s not working for a reason and I don’t need someone’s permission to move on.

Men don’t waste time overanalyzing whether or not they should leave. If it doesn’t serve them, they’re out. And honestly? That’s a level of emotional efficiency I’ve come to admire and embody.

If a job is no longer fulfilling? I search for a new one.
If a relationship isn’t what I want? I will walk away.
If something doesn’t align? I'm not sitting around over-explaining my perspective—I will just move accordingly.

📌 Lesson: Stop holding onto things that drain you. Detach with confidence. The quicker you release what no longer serves you, the quicker you make space for what does.

Learning these lessons from men has completely shifted how I move, and honestly, life feels lighter, smoother, and way more intentional because of it. I’ve learned to ask for what I want—without guilt or hesitation, to detach from what no longer serves me, and to let my actions speak louder than my words. And if there’s one thing I know for sure, it’s this: the best thing you can do for yourself is mind your business, ask for what you want, and keep it pushing.