High Maintenance and High Quality

For most of my life, I considered myself a low-maintenance woman. Even years ago, when someone told me I seemed high maintenance, I was genuinely offended. I remember thinking, “What gave you that impression?”

I couldn’t understand why it bothered me so much, but it did.

When people hear high maintenance, their minds often go straight to money and materialism. The stereotype is clear: a woman who needs luxury treats and expensive experiences to feel happy. A woman who’s self-centered, gold-digging, or impossible to please.

While that may be true for some, it’s not the only definition. And today, I stand firmly in mine:

I AM HIGH MAINTENANCE. But not for the reasons people assume.

In my world, being high maintenance has nothing to do with designer bags or five-star dinners (though I won’t turn them down either 👀). It has everything to do with how I carry myself, how I think, how I love, and what I expect from myself and others.

I’m high maintenance because I require a high level of respect and intentionality in my relationships. I hold myself to a high standard and extend that same grace and energy to those around me.

My mind is high maintenance because I’m constantly evolving, striving for greatness, and choosing not to settle for mediocrity not in life, not in love, not in purpose.

I crave elevated conversations. I want connections that stretch me, challenge me, see me. And when I look at it from that lens?

I’ve never been low maintenance. I just didn’t know how to define it properly until now.

So go ahead Call me high maintenance. I’ll say, “Thank you.” Because high maintenance…just means high quality.