Cultivating Connection
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At the beginning of the year I made a promise to myself that I would focus on cultivating meaningful relationships. This proclamation was not only dedicated to friendships, but also within my romantic life. My past relationship made it clear to me what I absolutely did not want. That same experience also highlighted what was most important to me in a partnership.
Most women I know describe their desired partner often with the materialistic and physical traits they want him to possess. Of course its nice to have a handsome guy buying you things, but that was the furthest thing from what I needed. I was challenging myself to get clear about what I did need in my future partner. Coming up with that answer really required some deep self work that only I could perform.
I am always asked the infamous question “What type of men do you like?” and I never had a true definitive answer. I would simply reply with “I did not know” or “I have no type I go more off a vibe”. Honestly even that was not fully accurate. I have come to many realizations and conclusions over the years about love, relationships and “MY TYPE”. The foundation of my interest is based on our personalities, compatibility, and emotional baggage brought to the table.
What is important for me is someone who shares similar views on life, but also operates with a code of morals and integrity on their own. These are not traits you can visibly see with the naked eye. Uncovering certain characteristics would take lots of conversations, quality time and the mutual interest of building a friendship. I was once told “A good relationship is the key to a good life”. At the time I did not fully understand what that meant. I certainly get it now.
Building a solid relationship requires some level of mental connection and simulation. Sex would just be a bonus in this equation. Intimacy is what I was craving, it is life giving and healing. Cultivating that energy and spirit would be extremely grounding. Taking the time to set a clear intention while looking for a partner is necessary for me at this phase of life. The goal is selfless true love. In my continued journey of self discovery I am evolving and staying in alignment with what I need.