Non-Attachment
This past weekend I had several conversations about life as we know it. One of the major things that stood out to me in each conversation was the amount of growth I had experienced and that my thinking was very different from what it used to be. Simply put… I worry less.
I don’t want to toot my own horn because I am still very much a work in progress. However, I was proud of my mental growth and how perception on life has drastically changed. My mental expansion is evident, and I am further inspired to dig deeper into my inner work. My goal is to continue to evolve and emerge at every new season wiser propelling myself into the next level of my life.
One of the most challenging parts of myself was shifting into a mindset of non-attachment. For me practicing non-attachment is the key to a happy life. Being able to detach my mind and body from people, possessions, and sometimes myself. It’s very freeing living in a space where no outside force or human can absolutely control my emotions and thoughts without my permission.
Practicing non-attachment has allowed me to navigate through pain and happiness with unconditional joy and love in my heart. In the past, I thought that changing my environment or acquiring material things would lead to happiness. Me focusing on my inner work has proved me wrong. The inner work is what lead to my human evolution. Evolution can present its self in many forms and it is solely based on our actions and behaviors. In my Buddhist practice it is living a life full of purpose and that is grounded in compassion for all things.
I started my journey of non-attachment in a previous relationship and career field. In my relationship I was so attached to the idea of being in love, having someone, and living how the world has brainwashed us to love. Part of my realization came when I understood that someone could love you today and not love you tomorrow. In the end you must be fully aware of that and okay with that. Each person has the right to do what makes them happy, not what makes you happy. Coming into that understanding saved me from extra emotional exhaustion.
The same with my old job, I could work hard each day and make the company millions of dollars. If they decide to let me go that is their choice and I must be okay with that within myself. Being okay with that reality and controlling my emotions will save me from drowning in worry and lack of confidence. I have been intentional about how I am handling things in my life and doing what will benefit me the most. Changing my mindset has been the leading cause to my continued happiness. I hope that I can radiate this vibration to those around me. I’ll end with a quote that I fell in love with it says….
“What matters is who we are when all the external things are stripped away, who we are as ourselves.”
– Daisaku Ikeda
